Author: Sooemrei

  • Consent

    Consent occurs when one person voluntarily agrees to the proposal or desires of another. It is a term of common speech, with specific definitions used in such fields as the law, medicine, research, and sexual consent. Consent as understood in specific contexts may differ from its everyday meaning. For example, a person with a mental disorder, a low mental age, or under the legal age of sexual consent may willingly engage in a sexual act that still fails to meet the legal threshold for consent as defined by applicable law.

    United Nations agencies and initiatives in sex education programs believe that teaching the topic of consent as part of a comprehensive sexuality education is beneficial. Types of consent include implied consent, express consent, informed consent and unanimous consent.

    Types

    An expression of consent is one that is unmistakably stated, rather than implied. It may be given in writing, e.g. contract, by speech (orally), or non-verbally, e.g. by a clear gesture such as a nod. Non-written express consent not evidenced by witnesses or an audio or video recording may be disputed if a party denies that it was given.
    Implied consent is consent inferred from a person’s actions and the facts and circumstances of a particular situation (or in some cases, by a person’s silence or inaction). Examples include unambiguously soliciting or initiating sexual activity or the implied consent to physical contact by participants in a hockey game or being assaulted in a boxing match.
    Informed consent in medicine is consent given by a person who has a clear appreciation and understanding of the facts, implications, and future consequences of an action. The term is also used in other contexts, such as in social scientific research, when participants are asked to affirm that they understand the research procedure and consent to it, or in sex, where informed consent means each person engaging in sexual activity is aware of any positive statuses (for sexually transmitted infections and/or diseases) they might expose themselves to.

    Unanimous consent, or general consent, by a group of several parties (e.g., an association) is consent given by all parties.

    Substituted consent, or the substituted judgment doctrine, allows a decision maker to attempt to establish the decision an incompetent person would have made if they were competent.

    Advance consent, where consent is given in advance, is generally considered not valid with certain exceptions depending on jurisdiction for advance healthcare directives, commercial contracts, and other.

    Consent can be defined according to substantive equality.
    In international law, consent involves states, not individuals. Consent is a crucial principle of international law that necessitates the agreement of all relevant parties for any changes in rules to be legally binding. However, some legal scholars propose that a consensus among states, rather than the explicit consent of each state, may be the standard by which a rule is considered obligatory and enforceable.

    Internet and digital services

    The concept of end-user given consent plays an important role in digital regulations such as the European General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR). The GDPR (Article 6) defines a set of different legal bases for lawful processing of personal data. End-users’ consent is only one of these possible bases. However, as a result of the GDPR enforcement (in 2018) and other legal obligations, data controllers (online service providers) have widely developed consent-obtaining mechanisms in recent years. According to the GDPR, end-users’ consent should be valid, freely given, specific, informed and active. But the lack of enforceability regarding obtaining lawful consents has been a challenge in the digital world. As an example, a 2020 study, showed that the Big Tech, i.e. Google, Amazon, Facebook, Apple, and Microsoft (GAFAM), use dark patterns in their consent obtaining mechanisms, which raises doubts regarding the lawfulness of the obtained consent.

    Tort

    Consent can be either expressed or implied. For example, participation in a contact sport usually implies consent to a degree of contact with other participants, implicitly agreed and often defined by the rules of the sport. Another specific example is where a boxer cannot complain of being punched on the nose by an opponent; implied consent will be valid where the violence is ordinarily and reasonably to be contemplated as incidental to the sport in question. Express consent exists when there is oral or written agreement, particularly in a contract. For example, businesses may require that persons sign a waiver (called a liability waiver) acknowledging and accepting the hazards of an activity. This proves express consent, and prevents the person from filing a tort lawsuit for unauthorised actions.

    In English law, the principle of volenti non fit injuria (Latin: “to a willing person, injury is not done”) applies not only to participants in sport, but also to spectators and to any others who willingly engage in activities where there is a risk of injury. Consent has also been used as a defense in cases involving accidental deaths during sex, which occur during sexual bondage. Time (May 23, 1988) referred to this latter example, as the “rough-sex defense”. It is not effective in English law in cases of serious injury or death.

    As a term of jurisprudence prior provision of consent signifies a possible defence (an excuse or justification) against civil or criminal liability. Defendants who use this defense are arguing that they should not be held liable for a tort or a crime, since the actions in question took place with the plaintiff or “victim’s” prior consent and permission.

    Medicine

    In medical law, consent is important to protect a medical practitioner from liability for harm to a patient arising from a procedure. There are exemptions, such as when the patient is unable to give consent.

    Also, a medical practitioner must explain the significant risks of a procedure or medication (those that might change the patient’s mind about whether or not to proceed with the treatment) before the patient can give a binding consent. This was explored in Australia in Rogers v Whitaker. If a practitioner does not explain a material risk that subsequently eventuates, then that is considered negligent. These material risks include the loss of chance of a better result if a more experienced surgeon had performed the procedure. In the UK, a Supreme Court judgment modernized the law on consent and introduced a patient-focused test to UK law: allowing the patient rather than the medical professionals to decide upon the level of risk they wish to take in terms of a particular course of action, given all the information available. This change reflects the Guidance of the General Medical Council on the requirement to consent patients, and removes the rule of medical paternalism.

    Social science research

    Social scientists are generally required to obtain informed consent from research participants before asking interview questions or conducting an experiment. Federal law governs social science research that involves human subjects, and tasks institutional review boards (IRBs) at universities, federal or state agencies, and tribal organizations to oversee social science research that involves human subjects and to make decisions about whether or not informed consent is necessary for a social scientific study to go forward. Informed consent in this context generally means explaining the study’s purpose to research participants and obtaining a signed or verbal affirmation that the study participants understand the procedures to be used and to consent to participate in the study.

    Some types of social scientific research, such as psychological experiments, may use deception as part of the study; in these cases, researchers may not fully describe the procedures to participants, and thus participants are not fully informed. However, researchers are required to debrief participants immediately after the experiment is concluded. Certain populations are considered to be vulnerable, and in addition to informed consent, special protections must be made available to them. These include persons who are incarcerated, pregnant women, persons with disabilities, and persons who have a mental disability. Children are considered unable to provide informed consent.

    Planning law

    Some countries, such as New Zealand with its Resource Management Act and its Building Act, use the term “consent” for the legal process that provide planning permission for developments like subdivisions, bridges or buildings. Achieving permission results in getting “Resource consent” or “Building consent”.

    Sexual activity

    In Canada, “consent means […] the voluntary agreement of the complainant to engage in sexual activity” without abuse or exploitation of “trust, power or authority”, coercion or threats. Consent can also be revoked at any moment. The Supreme Court of British Columbia ruled that badgering alone, followed by an agreement, does not meet the threshold of coercion to vitiate consent.

    Sexual consent plays an important role in defining what sexual assault is, since sexual activity without consent by all parties is rape. In the late 1980s, academic Lois Pineau argued that we must move towards a more communicative model of sexuality so that consent becomes more explicit and clear, objective and layered, with a more comprehensive model than “no means no” or “yes means yes”. Many universities have instituted campaigns about consent. Creative campaigns with attention-grabbing slogans and images that market consent can be effective tools to raise awareness of campus sexual assault and related issues.

    Since the late 1990s, new models of sexual consent have been proposed. Specifically, the development of “yes means yes” and affirmative models, such as Hall’s definition: “the voluntary approval of what is done or proposed by another; permission; agreement in opinion or sentiment.” Hickman and Muehlenhard state that consent should be “free verbal or nonverbal communication of a feeling of willingness’ to engage in sexual activity.” Affirmative consent may still be limited since the underlying, individual circumstances surrounding the consent cannot always be acknowledged in the “yes means yes”, or in the “no means no”, model.

    Some individuals are unable to give consent. Minors below a certain age, the age of sexual consent in that jurisdiction, are deemed not able to give valid consent by law to sexual acts. Likewise, persons with Alzheimer’s disease or similar disabilities may be unable to give legal consent to sexual relations even with their spouse.

    Within literature,[vague] definitions surrounding consent and how it should be communicated have been contradictory, limited or without consensus. Roffee argued that legal definition needs to be universal, so as to avoid confusion in legal decisions. He also demonstrated how the moral notion of consent does not always align with the legal concept. For example, some adult siblings or other family members may voluntarily enter into a relationship, however the legal system still deems this as incestual, and therefore a crime. Roffee argues that the use of particular language in the legislation regarding these familial sexual activities manipulates the reader to view it as immoral and criminal, even if all parties are consenting. Similarly, some children under the legal age of consent may knowingly and willingly choose to be in a sexual relationship. However the law does not view this as legitimate. Whilst there is a necessity for an age of consent, it does not allow for varying levels of awareness and maturity. Here it can be seen how a moral and a legal understanding do not always align.

    Initiatives in sex education programs are working towards including and foregrounding topics of and discussions of sexual consent, in primary, high school and college Sex Ed curricula. In the UK, the Personal Social Health and Economic Education Association (PSHEA) is working to produce and introduce Sex Ed lesson plans in British schools that include lessons on “consensual sexual relationships,” “the meaning and importance of consent” as well as “rape myths”. In U.S., California-Berkeley University has implemented affirmative and continual consent in education and in the school’s policies. In Canada, the Ontario government has introduced a revised Sex Ed curriculum to Toronto schools, including new discussions of sex and affirmative consent, healthy relationships and communication.

    Affirmative consent

    Affirmative consent (enthusiastic yes) is when both parties agree to sexual conduct, either through clear, verbal communication or nonverbal cues or gestures. It involves communication and the active participation of people involved. This is the approach endorsed by colleges and universities in the U.S., which describe consent as an “affirmative, unambiguous, and conscious decision by each participant to engage in mutually agreed-upon sexual activity.” According to Yoon-Hendricks, a staff writer for Sex, Etc., “Instead of saying ‘no means no,’ ‘yes means yes’ looks at sex as a positive thing.” Ongoing consent is sought at all levels of sexual intimacy regardless of the parties’ relationship, prior sexual history or current activity (“Grinding on the dance floor is not consent for further sexual activity,” a university policy reads). By definition, affirmative consent cannot be given if a person is intoxicated, unconscious or asleep.

    There are 3 pillars often included in the description of sexual consent, or “the way we let others know what we’re up for, be it a good-night kiss or the moments leading up to sex.”

    They are:

    Knowing exactly what and how much I’m agreeing to
    Expressing my intent to participate
    Deciding freely and voluntarily to participate

    To obtain affirmative consent, rather than waiting to say or for a partner to say “no”, one gives and seeks an explicit “yes”. This can come in the form of a smile, a nod or a verbal yes, as long as it is unambiguous, enthusiastic and ongoing. “There’s varying language, but the language gets to the core of people having to communicate their affirmation to participate in sexual behavior,” said Denice Labertew of the California Coalition Against Sexual Assault. “It requires a fundamental shift in how we think about sexual assault. It’s requiring us to say women and men should be mutually agreeing and actively participating in sexual behavior.”

    Critiques of affirmative consent

    The above concept of affirmative consent has become more mainstream and promoted in public discourse, institutions and the workplace, especially following the ”MeToo” scandals. However, feminists from varying political backgrounds have voiced concerns and critiques of affirmative consent as a solution to both sexual assault and creating sexual equality and autonomy between all genders. If women, queer people and other marginalized groups are not free to say no, why would they be free to say yes? Feminists have been seeking for more transformative alternatives that go beyond a (verbal) agreement between sexual partners, examining the issue as a political question related to power structures, the influence of neoliberal perceptions of the self and the complexity of human desire.

    Neoliberal contractualism and rationalism

    The common form of affirmative consent assumes that humans act as rational and independent beings who, at any point in any interaction, are fully aware of what they are (not) consenting to, whether they want to and are able to make a conscious, valid decision. Consent, as it is practiced now, thus requires us to rationalize desires and prioritizes thinking over feeling, and reason over emotions. The resulting consent is shaped in a neoliberal form of contractualism which makes a withdrawal of consent or a change in the conditions of the activity at stake rather challenging. This form of consent as a contract is assuming consent to happen between two (or more) individual and rational actors and it does not give room to forms of discomfort, vulnerability or discussion within the practice consented to. Additionally, this contractualism mostly relies on verbal, affirmative consent and overlooks non-verbal or alternative ways of consenting. The latter is rather essentializing signs of affirmation and, due to its reliance on verbal consent in form of understandable words, can be ableist by invalidating non-verbal consent. Furthermore, contractualism assumes consent to be rational by nature and implies that we always know rationally whether or not we want to consent to something. However, especially in the sphere of interpersonal sexual and non-sexual activities, our own needs or desires are not always rational but can rather be ambiguous, contradicting or unclear. Consent in the form of neoliberal contractualism is unable to include and reflect this ambiguity and the lack of rationality.

    Socio-cultural vs legal debate

    Arguably, there is a distinction that is rarely made in the debate around consent: the socio-cultural and the legal. While talking about consent, arguments are often informed and talked about in a legal framework: What do we need to be protected in the current legal framework? Which formulations give the best protection to victims of sexual violence? However, when talking about this particular protection there is also a need for protection through prevention, a protection by society rather than the law.

    While it is not necessarily a given that affirmative consent provides the best legal protection for victims without taking away their agency, there is another danger in linking the legal debate and our overall understanding of consent. Relying on the legal framework and presenting these as the question of consent takes away the need for change and discussion on the socio-cultural level that has the potential to offer even more complexity, flexibility and room to rethink our sexual and overall encounters beyond the protection against violence. A socio-cultural debate would be one around our needs, attitudes and behaviors and the changes needed, which arguably is a more complex debate to hold and handle. With a certain level of protection this complexity is needed though to rethink our encounters beyond the mantras of ‘no means no’ and ‘only yes means yes’, something that is not reductionist to be applied in a legal setting and that gives the possibility to imagine interactions beyond the current status quo.

  • Genie In a Bottle

    Song by Christina Aguilera ‧ 1999


    (Come on, come on, uh, yeah)
    Oh-ooh, whoa-oh (Come on, come on, uh)


    I feel like I’ve been locked up tight
    For a century of lonely nights
    Waiting for someone to release me
    You’re lickin’ your lips and blowin’ kisses my way
    But that don’t mean I’m gonna give it away
    Baby, baby, baby (Baby, baby, baby)


    Oh-oh-oh-oh-oh
    (My body’s sayin’, “Let’s go”)
    Oh-oh-oh-oh-oh
    (But my heart is sayin’, “No, no”)


    If you wanna be with me
    Baby, there’s a price to pay
    I’m a genie in a bottle (In a bottle, baby)
    You gotta rub me the right way (Yeah)
    If you wanna be with me
    I can make your wish come true
    You gotta make a big impression (Oh yeah)
    Gotta like what you do

  • Lady Marmalade

    Song ‧ 2001

    Where’s all my soul sista’s?
    Lemme hear y’all flow sista’s
    Hey sista’, go sista’, soul sista’, flow sista’ (uh)
    Hey sista’, go sista’, soul sista’, go sista’

    He met Marmalade down in old Moulin Rouge
    Struttin’ her stuff on the street
    She said, “Hello, hey Joe! You wanna give it a go?”
    Oh! Uh-huh

    Gitchie, gitchie, ya-ya, da-da (hey, hey, hey)
    Gitchie, gitchie, ya-ya, here (here)
    Mocha Chocolata, ya-ya (ooh, yeah)
    Creole Lady Marmalade
    (What-what, what-what, what-what?)
    Ooh, oh

    Voulez-vous coucher avec moi, ce soir? (Oh-oh)
    Voulez-vous coucher avec moi?
    Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah

    He sat in her boudoir while she freshened up
    (Hey sista’, go sista’, soul sista’, flow sista’)
    Boy drank all that Magnolia wine
    On her black satin sheets where he started to freak, yeah

    Gitchie, gitchie, ya-ya, da-da (da-da-da)
    Gitchie, gitchie, ya-ya, here, ooh, yeah, yeah
    Mocha Chocolata, ya-ya (yeah, yeah)
    Creole Lady Marmalade, uh

    Voulez-vous coucher avec moi, ce soir? (Ce soir)
    (What, what, what?)
    Voulez-vous coucher avec moi? (Ooh)

    Yeah, yeah, uh
    We come through with the money and the garter belts
    Let him know we ’bout that cake straight out the gate (uh)
    We independent women, some mistake us for whores
    I’m sayin’, “Why spend mine when I can spend yours?”
    Disagree? Well, that’s you, and I’m sorry
    I’ma keep playing these cats out like Atari (like Atari)
    Wear high heel shoes, get love from the dudes
    Four badass chicks from the Moulin Rouge, uh
    Hey sista’s, soul sista’s, betta get that dough, sista’s

    We drink wine with diamonds in the glass
    By the case, the meaning of expensive taste
    If you wanna Gitchie, Gitchie, ya-ya (come on)
    Mocha Chocolata (what?)
    Creole Lady Marmalade

    One more time, c’mon now

    Marmalade (ooh, oh)
    Lady Marmalade (ooh, yeah, yeah)
    Marmalade (no, oh, yeah)

    Hey, hey, hey!
    Touch of her skin, feeling silky smooth, oh
    Color of café au lait, alright
    Made the savage beast inside roar until he cried
    More (more), more (more), more

    Now he’s back home doin’ 9 to 5 (9 to 5)
    He’s livin’ the grey flannel life
    But, when he turns off to sleep, memories creep
    More (more), more (more), more

    Gitchie, gitchie, ya-ya, da-da (da-da, yeah)
    Gitchie, gitchie, ya-ya, here (ooh)
    Mocha Chocolata, ya-ya (yeah)
    Creole Lady Marmalade

    Voulez-vous coucher avec moi, ce soir? (Ce soir)
    Voulez-vous coucher avec moi? (All my sista’s, yeah)
    Voulez-vous coucher avec moi, ce soir? (Ce soir)
    Voulez-vous coucher avec moi? (C’mon! Uh)

    Christina (hey, oh)
    P!nk (Lady Marmalade)
    Lil’ Kim (hey, hey, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh)

    Mýa (oh, oh, ooh)
    Rockwilder, baby (baby)
    Moulin Rouge (oh-ooh; da-da)
    Misdemeanor here
    Creole Lady Marmalade
    Ooh, ooh, yes-ah

  • Beautiful

    Song by Christina Aguilera ‧ 2002

    Don’t look at me

    Every day is so wonderful
    Then suddenly it’s hard to breathe
    Now and then I get insecure
    From all the pain
    I’m so ashamed

    I am beautiful no matter what they say
    Words can’t bring me down
    I am beautiful in every single way
    Yes, words can’t bring me down, oh no
    So don’t you bring me down today

    To all your friends you’re delirious
    So consumed in all your doom
    Trying hard to fill the emptiness
    The pieces gone, left the puzzle undone
    Is that the way it is?

    You are beautiful no matter what they say
    Words can’t bring you down, oh no
    You are beautiful in every single way
    Yes, words can’t bring you down, oh no
    So don’t you bring me down today

    No matter what we do
    (No matter what we do)
    No matter what we say
    (No matter what we say)
    We’re the song inside the tune (Yeah)
    Full of beautiful mistakes

    And everywhere we go
    (And everywhere we go)
    The sun will always shine
    (The sun will always, always shine)
    And tomorrow we might wake on the other side

    ‘Cause we are beautiful no matter what they say
    Yes, words won’t bring us down, no, no
    We are beautiful in every single way
    Yes, words can’t bring us down, oh, no
    So don’t you bring me down today

    Ooh-oh-oh, yeah
    Don’t you bring me down today
    Yeah, ooh
    Don’t you bring me down
    Ooh, today

  • Dirrty

    Song by Christina Aguilera ‧ 2002

    Uh, dirrty (dirrty)
    Filthy (filthy…)
    Nasty
    Christina, you nasty (yeah)
    Too dirrty to clean my act up
    If you ain’t dirrty
    You ain’t here to party (woo!)

    Ladies (move)
    Gentlemen (move)
    Somebody ring the alarm
    A fire on the roof

    Ring the alarm (and I’m throwin’ elbows)
    Ring the alarm (and I’m throwin’ elbows)
    Ring the alarm (and I’m throwin’ elbows)
    Ring the alarm (and I’m throwin’ elbows)
    Ring the alarm (and I’m throwin’ elbows)
    Ring the alarm (and I’m throwin’ elbows)
    Ring the alarm (and I’m throwin’ elbows)

    Where my dawgs at?
    (Uh, let me loose)

    Oh, I’m overdue
    Give me some room
    I’m coming through
    Paid my dues
    In the mood
    Me and my girls gonna shake the room

    DJ’s spinning (show your hands)
    Let’s get dirrty (that’s my jam)
    I need that, uh, to get me off
    Sweat until my clothes come off

    It’s explosive, speakers are thumping
    Still jumping, six in the morning
    Table dancing, glasses are crashing
    No question, time for some action

    Temperature’s up (can you feel it)
    About to erupt
    Gonna get my girls
    Get your boys
    Gonna make some noise

    Gonna get rowdy
    Gonna get a little unruly
    Get it fired up in a hurry
    Wanna get dirrty
    It’s about time that I came to start the party

    Sweat dripping over my body
    Dancing, gettin’ just a little naughty
    Wanna get dirrty
    It’s about time for my arrival

    Ah, heat is up
    So ladies, fellas
    Drop your cups
    Body’s packed
    Front to back
    Now move your ass
    I like that

    Tight hip huggers (low for sure)
    Shake a little somethin’ (on the floor)
    I need that, uh, to get me off
    Sweat until my clothes come off

    Let’s get open, cause a commotion
    We’re still going, eight in the morning
    There’s no stopping, we keep it popping
    Hard rocking, everyone’s talking

    Give all you’ve got (give it to me)
    Just hit the spot
    Gonna get my girls
    Get your boys
    Gonna make some noise

    Gonna get rowdy
    Gonna get a little unruly
    Get it fired up in a hurry
    Wanna get dirrty
    It’s about time that I came to start the party

    Ooh, sweat dripping over my body
    Dancing, gettin’ just a little naughty
    Wanna get dirrty
    It’s about time for my arrival

    Here it comes, it’s the one
    You’ve been waiting on
    Get up, get it rough
    Yup, that’s what’s up
    Givin’ just what you love
    To the maximum

    Uh oh (uh oh)
    Here we go (here we go)

    What to do when the music
    Starts to drop
    That’s when we take it
    To the parking lot
    And I bet you somebody’s gonna
    Call the cops
    Uh oh (uh oh)
    Here we go (here we go)

    Yo, hot damn
    Doc a Jam like a Summer Show
    I keep my car looking like a crash dummy drove
    My gear look like the bank got my money froze
    For dead presidents I pimp like Huddy roll
    Doc the one that excite ya divas (ow!)
    If the media shine
    I’m shining with both of the sleeves up
    Yo Christina (what), better hop in here
    My block live and in color, like Rodman hair (yeah)

    The club is packed, the bar is filled
    I’m waiting for sisters to act like Lauryn Hill
    Frankly, it’s a rap, no bargain deals
    I drive a four wheel ride with foreign wheels
    Throw it up baby, it’s Brick City
    You heard of that
    We blessed and hung low like Bernie Mac
    Dogs let’em out, women let’em in
    It’s like I’m ODB, the way I’m freaking

    Gonna get rowdy (rowdy)
    Gonna get a little unruly (ruly)
    Get it fired up in a hurry (hurry)
    Wanna get dirrty
    It’s about time that I came to start the party (party)

    Sweat dripping over my body (body)
    Dancing, gettin’ just a little naughty
    Wanna get dirrty
    It’s about time for my arrival

    Gonna get rowdy
    Gonna get a little unruly
    Get it fired up in a hurry
    Wanna get dirrty
    It’s about time that I came to start the party

    Sweat dripping over my body
    Dancing, gettin’ just a little naughty
    Wanna get dirrty
    It’s about time for my arrival

    Gonna get rowdy
    Dance and getting a little unruly (wanna get dirrty)
    Get it fired up in a hurry
    Let’s get dirrty
    It’s about time that I came to start the party (oh dirrty)

    Sweat dripping over my body (wanna get dirrty)
    Wanna get a little naughty
    Wanna get dirrty
    It’s about time for my arrival
    Uh, what

  • Reflection

    Song by Christina Aguilera ‧ 1999

    Look at me
    You may think you see
    Who I really am
    But you’ll never know me
    Every day
    It’s as if I play a part

    Now I see
    If I wear a mask
    I can fool the world
    But I cannot fool my heart

    Who is that girl I see
    Staring straight back at me?
    When will my reflection show
    Who I am inside?

    I am now
    In a world where I
    Have to hide my heart
    And what I believe in

    But somehow
    I will show the world
    What’s inside my heart
    And be loved for who I am

    Who is that girl I see
    Staring straight back at me?
    Why is my reflection
    Someone I don’t know?

    Must I pretend that I’m
    Someone else for all time?
    When will my reflection show
    Who I am inside?

    There’s a heart that must be free to fly
    That burns with a need to know the reason why

    Why must we all conceal
    What we think, how we feel?
    Must there be a secret me
    I’m forced to hide?

    I won’t pretend that I’m
    Someone else for all time
    When will my reflection show
    Who I am inside?
    When will my reflection show
    Who I am inside?

  • I Turn to You

    Song by Christina Aguilera ‧ 1999

    When I’m lost, in the rain, in your eyes
    I know I’ll find the light to light my way.

    When I’m scared, losing ground, when my world is going crazy,
    You can turn it all around yes

    And when I’m down you’re there pushing me to the top.
    You’re always there givin’ me all you’ve got.

    For a shield from the storm, for a friend for a love to keep me safe and warm, I turn to you.
    For the strength to be strong, for the will to carry on,
    For everything you do for everything that’s true I turn to you, yes.

    When I lose the will to win I just reach for you and I can reach the sky again.
    I can do anything, ’cause your love is so amazing,
    Cause your love inspires me. And when I need a friend you’re always on my side,
    Givin’ me faith to get me through the night.

    For a shield (for a shield)
    From the storm (from the storm)
    For a friend, for a love to keep me safe and warm.
    I turn to you. (I turn to you)
    For the strength (for the strength)
    To be strong for the will to carry on.
    For everything you do I turn to you.
    (Oh yeah oh)

    For the arms to be my shelter through all the rain.
    For truth that will never change.
    For someone to lean on.

    For a heart I can rely on through anything.
    For the one who I can run to
    Oh yeah
    (So do you oh yeah)

    For a shield from the storm, for a friend, for a love to keep me safe and warm
    (To keep me safe and warm, yeah)
    I turn to you (I turn to you)
    For the strength (for the strength yea)
    To be strong, for the will to carry on.
    For everything you do (everything you do)
    For everything that’s true
    For everything you do
    For everything that’s true
    I turn to you

  • Hurt

    Song by Christina Aguilera


    Seems like it was yesterday when I saw your face
    You told me how proud you were, but I walked away
    If only I knew what I know today
    Ooh, ooh


    I would hold you in my arms
    I would take the pain away
    Thank you for all you’ve done
    Forgive all your mistakes
    There’s nothing I wouldn’t do
    To hear your voice again
    Sometimes I wanna call you
    But I know you won’t be there


    Oh, I’m sorry for blaming you
    For everything I just couldn’t do
    And I’ve hurt myself by hurting you


    Some days I feel broke inside, but I won’t admit
    Sometimes I just wanna hide ’cause it’s you I miss
    And it’s so hard to say goodbye when it comes to this
    Ooh, ooh, ah

  • Candyman

    Song by Christina Aguilera ‧ 2006

    Tarzan and Jane were swingin’ on a vine
    Candyman, Candyman
    Sippin’ from a bottle of vodka double wine
    Sweet sugar, Candyman
    Hey, hey, yeah, uh


    I met him out for dinner on a Friday night
    He really had me workin’ up an appetite
    He had tattoos up and down his arm
    There’s nothin’ more dangerous than a boy with charm


    He’s a one-stop shop, makes the panties drop
    He’s a sweet-talkin’, sugar-coated Candyman
    A sweet-talkin’, sugar-coated Candyman


    Ooh yeah, yeah-eah


    He took me to the Spider Club at Hollywood and Vine
    We drank champagne and we danced all night
    We shook the paparazzi for a big surprise (For a big surprise)
    The gossip tonight will be tomorrow’s headline (Oh-oh, oh)

  • Can’t Hold Us Down

    Song by Christina Aguilera and Lil’ Kim ‧ 2002

    So, what, am I not supposed to have an opinion?
    Should I keep quiet just because I’m a woman?
    Call me a bitch ’cause I speak what’s on my mind
    Guess it’s easier for you to swallow if I sat and smiled
    When a female fires back
    Suddenly big talker don’t know how to act
    So he does what any little boy would do
    Makin’ up a few false rumors or two
    That for sure is not a man to me
    Slanderin’ names for popularity
    It’s sad you only get your fame through controversy (so, so sad)
    But now it’s time for me to come and give you more to say

    This is for my girls all around the world (around the world)
    Who have come across a man that don’t respect your worth (woah)
    Thinkin’ all women should be seen not heard (woah)
    So what do we do, girls? Shout louder
    Lettin’ ’em know we’re gonna stand our ground (stand our ground)
    So lift your hands higher and wave ’em proud (woah)
    Take a deep breath and say it loud (woah)
    Never can, never will, can’t hold us down (woah)

    Nobody can hold us down (hold us down)
    Nobody can hold us down (hold us down)
    Nobody can hold us down (hold us down)
    Never can, never will

    So, what, am I not supposed to say what I’m sayin’?
    Are you offended with the message I’m bringin’?
    Call me whatever ’cause your words don’t mean a thing
    ‘Cause you ain’t even a man enough to handle what I sing
    If you look back in history
    It’s a common double standard of society
    The guy gets all the glory, the more he can score
    While the girl can do the same and yet you call her a whore
    I don’t understand why it’s okay
    The guy can get away with it, the girl gets named
    All my ladies come together and make a change
    And start a new beginnin’ for us, everybody sing

    This is for my girls all around the world (’round the world) (yeah)
    Who have come across a man that don’t respect your worth (respect your worth)
    Thinkin’ all women should be seen not heard (you can’t get rid of us)
    So what do we do, girls? Shout louder
    Lettin’ ’em know we’re gonna stand our ground (we standin’ our ground on this one)
    So lift your hands higher and wave ’em proud (woah)
    Take a deep breath and say it loud
    Never can, never will, can’t hold us down (check it)

    Here’s somethin’ I just can’t understand
    If a guy have three girls then he’s the man
    He can even give her some head and sex her raw
    If a girl do the same, then she’s a whore
    But the table’s ’bout to turn, I’ll bet my fame on it
    Cats take my ideas and put they name on it
    It’s aight though, you can’t hold me down (oh no)
    I got to keep on movin’
    To all my girls with a man who be tryna mack
    Do it right back to him and let that be that
    You need to let him know that his game is whack
    And Lil’ Kim and Christina Aguilera got your back

    You’re just a little boy
    You think you’re so cute, so coy
    You must talk so big
    To make up for smaller things
    Said you’re just a little boy
    All you do is annoy
    You must talk so big
    To make up for smaller things
    This is for my girls, oh

    This is for my girls all around the world
    Who have come across a man that don’t respect your worth (respect your worth, oh)
    Thinkin’ all women should be seen not heard
    So what do we do, girls? Shout louder (shout louder)
    Lettin’ ’em know we’re gonna stand our ground (we stand our ground)
    So lift your hands higher and wave ’em proud (oh, ooh-ooh)
    Take a deep breath and say it loud
    Never can, never will, can’t hold us down (oh-ooh)

    This is for my girls all around the world (for my girls)
    Who have come across a man that don’t respect your worth (around the world)
    Thinkin’ all women should be seen not heard (yeah)
    So what do we do girls? Shout louder
    Lettin’ ’em know we’re gonna stand our ground (stand our ground)
    So lift your hands higher and wave ’em proud (woah)
    Take a deep breath and say it loud
    Never can, never will, can’t hold us down

    Uh, oh-oh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh
    Spread the word
    Can’t hold us down
    Yeah, we here, we back again
    Yeah, Lil’ Kim and Christina Aguilera
    Yeah
    Can’t hold us down, uh, uh